Now that I’ve been at it for a few months I must say my early impressions of online dating might have been a bit premature. Considering how hard it is for some of us more shy people to get a date with someone who really interests us, online dating sure fills the gaps and makes it real easy.

With a bit of work on your personal dating profile I have found the response rate increases as does the quality of person contacting you. I’ve had great luck at finding dates since really making an effort to squeeze the most out of the online dating services. Posting lots of pictures of yourself in normal situations will go a long way as well. Don’t post pictures of you with others of the opposite sex and most certainly don’t post party pics unless that’s what you want in return – someone who parties before anything else!

Why can I say with certainty that online dating does work? Well besides the sheer volume of dates I have been able to get with some very classy women and all the fun that comes with that, I’ve now been dating the same girl for a few months now. We are headed in the right direction and that feels great.

Being single has some great attributes, but after a while those start to wear a bit thin as well seek something a bit more to our heart’s liking. I highly recommend trying more than one online dating service if the first one you try doesn’t work out. Each has good points and bad points. I can recommend both Lavalife and eHarmony as both do what they promise – find you dates – and leave the rest up to you!

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Well after our first date and the subsequent inability to nail down a day for second date, Cathy and I did manage to find some time to get together again. And having done so, I must admit, I yearn for a third.

We will see each other again soon as I believe we both found some common attraction. But knowing how I have a way of blowing a good thing for reasons known and unknown to myself, I will keep dating other women until one becomes the only one I want to see and vice-versa.

I’ve had a couple other first dates in the past ten days or so, but after the first meetings I didn’t feel any real attraction to either of the girls. I must say the first girl Susan sure was a stunner to look at. While walking down a crowded city street towards a restaurant I couldn’t help but notice the men we passed would all swing their heads in her direction. And almost all ended with their eyes on her behind. She did have a trunk work eyeballing! But I need more than a nice behind to keep my attention going ahead. She’s called me twice since, and for the heck of it, I have agreed to see her again. Dinner at her place – you do the math…

Well I finally had my first eHarmony date. Their system drags things out a bit too much for my tastes, but here was one girl who responded quickly and did catch my attention.

Cathy is a pretty girl of Peruvian roots with a sweet French accent. We had spent many hours talking on the phone before meeting and discussed many topics. I knew meeting her would be relaxed and I really looked forward to it. The date went well and I would have taken her out again too. But there was the problem. She is near-perfect except for the fact that she is so non-committal. I can’t help but think it’s a part of the typical waste of time dating ‘ritual’ of playing games.

I am way past playing games and really want nothing to do with it. I won’t be seeing her again.

Well it has been a couple of weeks since I first signed up with both lavalife and eharmony and here is what I have found thus far about these online dating services.

I’ve been out on seven dates with women I have meet using this service. All seven have been from Join Lavalife.com: Get 24 hours FREE

Well after trying pretty hard to go it alone and having zero success, I thought I’d chuck my hat into the ring of online dating.

I signed up for eHarmony and Lavalife last week. I have quickly realized that they are two different creatures.

eHarmony has their compatibility profile which you must go through to see your matches. I answered all the questions as accurately as possible and it wasn’t long before the ‘matches’ started rolling in. Sorry to say but the first two I opened looked much more like men than women, but I guess it’s all about the compatibility thing. But maybe I’m just shallow or think too highly of my own good looks, but I can’t see myself with someone so darn fugly. Hate me if you like, but I’d rather be up front and honest than lie just for the sake of appearances.  There are a couple of others I have been exchanging messages with and I will just have to see where it ends up.

Lavalife like most online dating services have some foreign scammers looking for stupid gullible horny single men. I might be stupid at times, and I am certainly horny, but I’m not gullible. Far too many women send messages saying how hot I am, and that they want to get to know me if only I email them at their Russian email address… So use your common sense and resist the urge to go for the first pretty thing taking interest in you! Lavalife does do a good job at clearing out the scammers.

I did meet one woman from Lavalife last week and I thought it went fairly well. She was small and cute, she was displaying all the right body language and was very open with her talkative nature, but it’s been a week and after trying twice to contact her I’ve heard squat. She called me the same night we went out to say she had a good time and wanted to see me again. Oh well, holding pattern for me.

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